While walking around a local grocery store, picking out dairy products, I was talking to my mother about my choice to be child free. My sisters were curious but worried about hurting my feeling by asking. (They are silly that way :) ) So as I am talking to my mom I say several times over the phone saying like "Mom, I love kids, they are just not for me." or "I am just to selfish right now, lol, I like buying video games over diapers." Other similar comments were made, none rude that I would guess. However, I apparently said the wrong thing because I was then confronted by this.
This mother of two was furious over my comments. "What kind of horrible person doesn't want kids?" I honestly at first looked around confused. Was she seriously talking to me. I knew she was when she then continued. "A video game!! More important!!" She was red in the face she was so mad.
At this point I was unsure what she expected me to say. I don't know this person who is now belittling me in the middle of the dairy isle. As she continues to tell me all about how she raised her kids and loves them more than anything, I nicely tell my mom I will call her back, hang up the phone and face this woman.
....... Well I tried, but she was so honestly upset. All I could do was stand there and let her rag on me. I think I knew there was nothing I could say that would make this better. Though trying to keep the tears back while she called me a horrible, worthless, being was a bit hard.
Finally she took a breath, and I said the only thing I could think of at that moment. "Do you feel better?" I took it from the "oh my god, what did I just do?!" look on her face that this was not a planned berating. She started stammering on about being sorry, but I didn't want to stand there. I just put my hand up and said. "Have a good day," and walked away.
I left my cart in the store and went to the car. I didn't cry. Just felt......actually. I am still not sure how I felt. I know I am happy with my choices, I don't doubt them. But to have a complete stranger who obviously loves her children go off on me in a very public place was just to much.
Some days, being child free is hard. Still completely worth it. But hard.